Hosting Parties in Lincoln Neighborhoods

The Five Party Nightmares for Hosts (And How to Avoid Them)


Nightmare #1: Your party gets BUSTED

  • Keep the party to a smaller size with less than 30 people.
  • Make sure your guests don't do things that make the naeighbors complain to the police, like parking cars on lawns, vandalizing property, being too loud.
  • DO NOT charge any kind of fees to party guests.
  • DO NOT serve alcohol to minors.
  • Let neighbors know when you're planning the next blowout (or when the small get-together turns into a blowout).
  • Cooperate with the police if they show up. Have a calm, sober person speak with them. If they ask you to break up the party, do it.
  • People leaving who start to drive may be tested for DUI; use 475-RIDE or a designated driver.
  • Neighbors left with lots of trash are MORE likely to call the cops on your NEXT party -- clean up after the party!
  • Be familiar with the Five Ways to get Your Party BUSTED
  • Know the Laws and Penalties for Lincoln

Nightmare #2: YOUR PLACE gets ROBBED

  • Monitor who enters the party. Don't let in people that no one knows. A guest list makes this easier. Having an "everyone is welcome" party is the quickest way to get robbed (or face a host of other problems).
  • Hide or protect valuables and lock areas that people shouldn't wander into.
  • Keep the party in a central location of the house.
  • Avoid letting people get over-intoxicated.
  • Keep an inventory of your stuff and check it all after the party.
  • Call the police and report any missing items.
  • Pay attention to people who leave early, or people who come with backpacks.
  • Have at least one person remain sober to keep an eye on the place and the people at the party.

Nightmare #3: Someone at your party gets SERIOUSLY HURT or ILL

  • Watch for emerging fights and drunken stunts, especially as people consume more alcohol. You can intervene before someone gets hurt.
  • It's okay to call the police on your own party if things get out of hand.
  • Know the signs of acute intoxication -- if someone is unconscious or semiconscious, has 8 or fewer breaths per minute and 8 or more seconds between breaths, or has cold, clammy or bluish skin, call 911 immediately.
  • Choose cans over bottles or kegs; this will reduce overconsumptionand avoid broken glass.
  • If someone gets angry, the best thing to do is to avoid violence, especially if they've been drinking. Don't try to win the fight. Keep your voice calm and conversational and keep yourself at eye level.

Nightmare #4: Someone at your party gets SEXUALLY ASSAULTED or RAPED

  • Limit access to areas out of view where guests could have sexual encounters.
  • Most sexual assaults occur during intoxication. Look out for individuals who are over-consuming and who's hitting on them.
  • Let your friends know that it is not okay for them to take advantage of someone sexually at your party.
  • Keep an eye out for individuals who may be more vulnerable to sexual assault. This includes people attending the party alone or people who appear to be intoxicated.
  • When you see someone being forced or manipulated sexually, speak up and get others involved to "rescue" that guest tactfully and without conflict.
  • Remember: An unconscious or intoxicated person can't give consent. Without consent, it's sexual assault.

Nightmare #5: YOU or someone at your party winds up at DETOX

  • If police come and break up the party, cooperate with them. If you appear to be out of control, you've just provided the reason for placing you in protective custody.
  • Space your drinks so that you don't get over-intoxicated.
  • Ask a sober friend to drive people home.
  • Cut people off who appear to be headed to acute intoxication.
  • Know that the Cornhusker Place, Inc. can keep you for up to 24 hours and can refuse to accept your "responsible party."